"A neurotic can be transformed by the illusion of reward, because that was what happened in childhood. Dangling security, love, or understanding and protection will corrupt because it anchors into unfulfilled need, the same need that allowed for the corruption in the first place. A normal person cannot be so easily swayed and corrupted because there are no free-floating unfulfilled needs to hook into. He is not overly tempted because temptation doesn't trigger a mountain of needs that he imagines are going to be fulfilled.
"The neurotic leads an exaggerated life. Need forces too much smoking, drinking, gambling, or risk taking. He either overreacts or underreacts, because straight reactions cannot be felt and measured. When one is out of touch with one's self, one's reactions are not in harmony, so one tries to act interested, excited, and loving. But it is an act.
When one's feelings are blocked away, one doesn't get much out of life. The gifts are meaningless, the trips disappointing, because "you" are always there when you travel. Nothing is as it should be. If the neurotic could take stock, he would know that he is uncomfortable, ill at ease, and dissatisfied. But so long as his neurosis works, he doesn't take stock. He just keeps on going, working, moving around, keeping busy. That releases some of the tension and makes him feel comfortable. When he breaks a leg and cannot move around, he begins to hurt. It may be the first inkling that he is not so normal after all."
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